Date a Beautiful Russian Woman

by admin on August 2, 2010

I know that you have seen the hype and fuss about the benefits of dating a woman from Russia or Eastern Europe. Foreign themed sites point out that you can often find a woman with high education, very attractive looks, and a motivation towards a serious relationship.

There is, however, a flip side to this story. When considering dating or having a relationship with a woman from Eastern Europe or Russia you would be wise to think about the answer to the following question:

What are some of the difficulties that you will encounter because of the visa and travel rules from Russia or Eastern Europe?

If you have already found a nice woman from Eastern Europe or Russia, you may find that the normal relationship-building phase that you have with a Western woman, will be not available or practical to you. Why is this the case? The reason for this is that most women from Russia or Eastern Europe will not be free to travel to visit you! For those of you that live in the US, this problem will be a foreign concept for you, so you may miss it. In general, the US has resisted national identity cards. For those of us that travel all the time, we are accustomed to just getting on an airplane and flying almost anywhere; flash your passport and you are on your way.

But, for many outside the US and Western Europe, it is not so simple.

If you travel to Western Europe, you will normally find that a visa attained prior to your trip is not required. Your passport is just stamped at the destination airport. Depending on the country, this “entry visa” is often good for 90 days.

Traveling to Eastern Europe is a little more complicated but similar. Many of the former Soviet Satellite States such as the Ukraine, Estonia, and Latvia will also allow you to enter by just showing your passport upon arrival at the airport. The length of time that you can stay on this tourist visa varies by country.

If your friend lives in Russia, or Belarus, the differences could not be more different as well as more aggravating. The process to visit these countries is archaic. So archaic that you will think you stepped back in time 50 years. In general, here is the process. First you must decide where you want to go. Let’s say your friend lives in St. Petersburg. You decide you want to visit St. Petersburg and now you must make a hotel reservation. You find and reserve a nice hotel in the city. At this point, however, you need an “invitation.” The hotel or another travel agency can get you a special “letter of invitation” with the dates of your travel and itinerary spelled out.

You think that you are done? Not so fast, you are not even close!

Next you must get your flight arrangements. The airlines may not give you your ticket until you have the invitation.

The following step, and the worst step, is you have to mail or visit the Russian consulate and give them your passport with copies of everything you have as well as a passport photo. In about 3 weeks they will send all you documents back; At least you hope so! Now you are ready for your trip!

Here is another example.

You have a friend in Kiev that is one of the easier countries to enter. You fly in, go to a hotel, and all is normal. The weekend goes well and you ask your friend “Svetlana”, “Why don’t you come visit me next month?” After an awkward pause, you discover that she can’t visit you next month, perhaps not even next year or ever! In order for Svetlana to visit you, she will be required to get an exit visa from her country as well as an entry visa to the US. It gets very technical but in general the American Consulate in Kiev will not issue tourist visas for reproductive age woman to visit the US! Of course, you can marry her after a few visits, get a K-3 visa, apply for a K-1 visa and take your chances.

The point of all of this is that this encompassing and unfortunate bureaucracy will make it very difficult for you to have a normally developing relationship. Generally, a normal relationship is one in which you have many casual dates, in a relaxed setting, and over a long period of time. But, do they want that? Not so fast.

In general, these women are only looking for someone that is “serious.” Her definition of “serious” is someone who is willing to

invest a significant amount of money and time on them before the man even knows them. No dating please: an engagement after only a few days together or hit the road.

“It’s alright to think twice.”

“For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost…” Luke 14:28

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How To Become A Chick Magnet: A Review

by admin on June 22, 2010

A new book by author Graham Stony entitled “How To Become A Chick Magnet” is an exciting addition to the dating literature in general and men’s literature in particular. This book takes an interesting and fascinating approach in providing tools to men who seek the girl of their dreams.

Using an organized approach, the book is divided into two parts. The first part primarily deals with the psychological aspects of finding and keeping a beautiful woman. The second part is a set of tools that the men should consider putting in their toolbox in order to achieve this goal.

The book is replete with personal stories from the author’s life including interesting, as well as amusing stories describing his travels overseas as well as in the United States. The book contains ample quotes from the relevant literature, which are sprinkled throughout the chapters driving a point home or providing deep insight.

The psychological section is divided into 12 steps. These steps include but are not in limited to the following:

Step One: Stop Trying To Make People Like You

Step Two: Ditch Your Emotional Baggage

Step Three: Quiet Your Inner Critic

Step Five: Master Your Fear

Step Six: Worrying About What Other People Think, and so on.

Right from the introduction we get the sense of the depth of this work. Making statements such as “Once you get your mindset right, you won’t have to do anything in order to attract woman. It’s all about who you are, not what you do” and “woman love guys who are real. They want the real you.” Quotes such as these reflect his understanding that genuine people form healthy relationships.

Each chapter also comes with a box with enclosed bullets that you can use as study points. Step Two, Ditch Your Emotional Baggage” includes the bullet points “Get in Touch With Your Feelings” and Broaden Your Emotional Vocabulary.”

The first half of the book continues until he reaches step 12 which is entitled: “Change Your Thinking” and begins with a quote from Rhonda Byrne, who wrote The Secret, and states “You are a genius beyond description, so start telling yourself that and become aware of who you really are.”

This half closes with a discussion of numerous workshops held around the world and on the Internet to help you develop relationship skills.

The second half, what he calls the “Skill Set”, are things and activities that individuals should do in order to increase their variety in life, cultivate healthy interests, and enhance your intelligence. He includes discussions such as, learning to dance, learning to speak a foreign language, learning to cook, taking a drama course, and starting your own business. In all, he’s encouraging the reader to get up and get moving, essentially informing us that the couch potato will never have success in life or in getting that beautiful partner.

As someone who reads much of the relationship and couples literature, I found this book to be wholesome, accurate, timely, and thought provoking.

Although the title, “How To Become A Chick Magnet”, reflects the main goal of finding an appropriate partner, the methods and the activities discussed in the book go way beyond this one facet of your life.

He encourages an active lifestyle, healthy relationships, and the quest for knowledge. In the end, this type of attitude can only bring success to any endeavor.

This is a must read!

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Sex On The First Date

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Should You Have Sex On The First Date?
Copyright  2010 William Marzullo
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Should I Give My Boyfriend or Girlfriend Money?

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Giving Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Money

© 2010, William Marzullo, MD
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Date Ideas

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Now that you finally got the date that date you desired, what are some of the things that you did on your first date?
This blog is a place for you to come and write you ideas so we can all learn from each other. I will start it off with some thoughts about dating ideas. [...]

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